Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Alone
Tonight I was talking to a friend on the phone and we were talking about being alone. Being alone and being lonely are 2 completely different things.For now lets talk about being alone. We can touch on lonely another day. If you are single meaning not married or not in a committed relationship people look at with a different set of eyes.Why is that? Do they feel sorry for you or do they pity you? For those who don't know I am one of those people that is not married nor am I in a committed relationship. Sometimes I see myself in those same set of eyes, for instance I will not go out to eat by myself. Why you ask? Sometimes I ask myself that same question. Men can do it they look cool and slightly mysterious while sitting at a bar eating and watching the game. So why do I feel a tad uncomfortable sitting at a table reading a book and enjoying a nice dinner alone? I know , I know I should not care what other people say or think about me but reality is we all in some form or fashion are concerned about what people say or think about us.So what do you think when you see a woman out eating alone? If you are single and not in a relationship would you go out to eat alone and honestly be cool with it? I would love to hear what anyone is thinking.
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Well Denise, I think you are absolutley right when you say there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Being alone is something that every human being should be able to do. If you are unable to be alone with yourself who would you suspect would want to be alone with you. Being alone gives us the opportunity to know and understand who we truly are as well as allow us the time to know God the one who created us. I am neither married or in a relationship and I am able to eat out alone (although I don't do it to often) and go to a movie alone. Go to a movie alone is very easy to me. For the most part you don't talk in the theater anyway, so I just kick back and watch a good movie. It's great! As far as what other people think, I don't really know but when I see others alone, I just look and understand because I do the same thing.
There is definitely a difference between being lonely and being lonely. I feel that if you are lonely you are longing to have someone there with you whether its is a friend you just talk to on the regular or if there is someone you want to be with seriously like a date or something. Now being alone is just like being in a house by yourself only out in the public. Sometimes i regularly go to the movies by myself just to relax or to just get out the house...plus i pay better attention to a movie when i go stag. So i can relate because i do have moments where i see people and they have somebody out with them and they are having fun because it is of course nice to have somebody with you during an outing every once and again because it becomes more fun. I feel that if you can't go out by yourself the majority of the time, you will give off the "needy" vibe because since you feel like you are alone then you will have the tendency to get clingy when someone is around.
Hi Dee Dee,
I am single and I go out to dinner or a movie alone at least twice a month. I've been doing this for a few years. Sometimes I feel strange, like everyone is staring thinking, "What's wrong with her. Why is she out alone". But then I pay the tab and never see those people again. If we can't stand to be around ourselves, alone, then we shouldn't expect others to want to be around us.
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