Sunday, October 11, 2009
What attracts you to someone else? It could be lots of thing or it could be just one thing. For me it took me awhile to understand these laws. Here is a funny story about me. When I was in high school I was not the most.....attractive girl in the class by high school standards, I was the semi-cute,awkward,some what smart band geek. I excelled in music so I had lots of friends on the football and basketball teams. We were all friends. JUST friends. I had a crush on one of the guys on the basketball team and no I never told him. He was nice to me and always spoke. On this one day I was walking down the hall. I saw him and he saw me. All of a sudden he winked at me and smiled. At that moment everything around me just go fuzzy, I forgot were I was and what I was doing and I bumped right into a locker!!! ouch!!! Go ahead and laugh it is funny now. At that time I could not figure out what the hell happened. NOW I understand what it was. It was the laws of attraction.That basketball player had just a few of the qualities that attract me to men. With all of that being said the things that attract me to men. Nice smiles, nice teeth, fair to dark skin, well spoken, thick eye brows and lashes, bowed legs( Lord help me!), tall as or taller than me and if he smells good that's a wrap for me. After all of that at first sight we have all of the other traits God fearing,hard working, educated in his field, caring,soft spoken, understanding, soft hearted and loves his mother and kids if he has any. Now here are the questions. If you have a husband or a wife , a boyfriend or a girlfriend r even if you have both. What attracted you to that person? If you do not have either one what attracts you to the opposite sex? I would love to hear you views out there.
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Interesting question! What attracts me to the opposite sex? Well, I must admit that I have a few physical qualities that attract me to the opposite sex. However, even from a young age I became aware that physical beauty cannot hold a candle for me, to the attribues I look for in someone's personality. I enjoy someone who is kind and well- spoken and who also has a sense of humor. Yes, I know these are things that you normally find out once you've already gotten past the physical aspect but even if I were to mention those things that are attractive to me physically, that all goes out the window if I meet someone with those physical qualities and he has a nasty or arrogant personality. Now don't get me wrong I'm not saying I don't recognize physical beauty in a man because I do, it's just that I am so much more interested in what and who that man is on the inside.
We come to love not by finding a perfect person but by learning to see the imperfect person perfectly. Agape! And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from afollowing after thee: for whither thou goest, I will bgo; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy cpeople shall be my people, and thy God my dGod:
17 Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the Lord do so to me, and more also, if ought but death part thee and me. Knowing that love is not perfect in it's being. I'm attracted to the sista girl/woman/lady whom has faced her challenges in finding her inner spirit. By overcoming the obstacles of her culture,family background,education and career in such a way that her inner glow shines. As she smiles, with the confidence of a trailblazer. I'm not afraid of her shine, while knowing we'll become one. Catching a quick glimpse of her tenderness as I watch her thinking of the possibilities. These words come to mind.
Love comforteth like sunshine after rain,
But Lust's effect is tempest after sun;
Love's gentle spring doth always fresh remain,
Lust's winter comes ere summer half be done;
Love's surfaits not, Lust like a glutton dies;
Love is all truth, Lust full of forged lies.
Allowing me to be realistic and honest, but more importantly allowing the potential of god's blessing or message to reach me.
Hmm well being that im considered a "young-blood" there are many things that could attract me to the opposite sex. Originally I would have age come into play and say that they have to be a certain age range, but after a while, i came to learn that age is nothing but a number to me, BUT I HAVE MY LIMITS!! lol...so as far as the other attractions, i would have to say someone that is atleast my height or taller, I have to be able to accept them for who they are flaws and all and vice versa. I would not even mind them being old school and be liviing proof that chivalry is indeed not dead. They have to be able to make me laugh which is a major plus because everyone knows i love to laugh i really cant help it even if i tried. Someone that is not afraid to show you who they are from jumpstreet and are ablr to be real with you but to do it in a respectful manner. Someone that is able to interest me overall by what they bring to the table and not use where they dome from or their upbringing as a crutch. MOST IMPORTANTLY they have to be respectful to females, in the little time that i have been dating i have ran into guys that are one way one day, but they minute you dont move to their beat or you do something that they dont like, they do a complete 360 on you and then all of the dirty laundry comes out...so they have to be respectful and know that i like to take things slow and they have that ability to make a woman feel as comfortable as possible by being themselves and not how they boys are used to seeing them act. As far ass the physical aspect...I know we all wish that we could get a guy that look like Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson, but looks aren't everything, it helps, but its not the most important thing....but hey a girl can dream! =D
Well being that my hubby and I started corting in high school. I have to honestly say it was his good looks, plus he could really dress (back then the dress slacks or jeans starched to a "T", and the skinny tie. We grew up together since we got married at 19 and been through some extremely difficult times, but we have weathered the storms (praise God). With that said, my hubby has always accepted me for the way I was. He did
not try to change me, or ridicule me because I was overweight. He's a God-fearing man, with a sense of humor, and very unselfish. He also loves and supports his mother and father. He's an excellent cook, great at cleaning the house, and washes clothes. Most of all, he loves me so much and takes care of me when I am sick (makes me potato soup, with bacon, and toast with jelly).
Yes, I love that man of mine.
Sonja
Let's see....anyone who knows me, knows that I LOVE A FUNNY MAN! If he can't make me laugh, doesn't matter how good he looks-it just won't work for me! ;) That being said, he also has to be supportive, and not just say "Yeah, I support you in whatever you do", but REALLY support me, as in encouraging me to got back to school for myself because I always put others needs before my own, and then picking up my share of the housework (that's right there is SHARING of the chores!) when I have homework...or a project to do, WITHOUT a single complaint. He has to have a soft heart for animals and children even if he has a "tough exterior". He CANNOT be arrogant. Confidence is one thing, but arrogance is almost the most unattractive trait any person can posess. Intelligence, and not just "book smarts", but general knowledge, such as how to change the oil in our cars, or build something from scratch, even if you are a "white collar" by day ;)
As far as the physical characteristics, a great smile goes a long way, the taller, the better ;), and a man that knows how to dress is always a plus.
So I would say that I lucked out, because these are just a small list of the traits that Wil posesses. Why else would I be marrying him? :D
Hahaha this one is funny...I met my husband at kroger 4 years ago.When i saw him i was like wow and i say that cause he just had this swagger about himself.He was a man thay you could tell hit the gym everyday was built just sexy.But try and talk to him was like hitting up against a brick wall and that just attracted me more to him.Now we have been married a year almost and we are complete opposites but it works for us in a weird kinda way.But hey Robinson you know us pretty good so you know im talking about....
Hey Denise,
From your subject heading I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess you read, or seen The Secret. I was amazed to find the Law of Attraction really works!
Stay positive, surround yourself with positive people and see how many positive things come to pass in your life. It worked for me and I wish you the same.
Take Care,
Charise
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and what attracts me to someone will not necessarily attract someone else. I have learned that scientifically, chemicals in the brain will attract you to someone that seems familiar to you. It could be a familiar smell or body type. My family laughs a lot, so I am deeply attracted to someone who can make me laugh. Dimples are a plus too, a few family members have those. But one thing that is weird but can be related to is body odor. If I can't stand the way you smell, no amount of laughter will make me touch you! Seriously, though, knowing what you are attracted to and why is half the battle. Now good luck finding that one person who fits all those traits.
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