Well, this is my first of what I hope will be many blogs. On Fridays I will see what the thoughts are out there are. For those that know me some of my thoughts can be off the wall for those who don't well we will just have to see how it goes.Lets talk about expectations. In a lot disappointments that have come into my life I have realized that they have been mostly my fault. Why you ask? Most of the time my expectations were either unrealistic or they were out of my control.Some of the time I did not even realize what the root cause of my disappointment was.Let me come up with a good example......I strive to be healthy I would like to loose weight. During the week I exercised ate right kept my mind in a positive place but be hold...I step on the scale and I have gained 2 pounds. Am I disappointed....duh yeah but why.......well the answer is expectations I EXPECTED to see immediate results when in fact the body does things that we will never understand. Maybe I had too much salt that caused me to retain fluid,maybe I ate something that I know that I shouldn't have.Needless to say I have expectations of myself that were not met. If I had just gone into it as a way of just living healthy and making a lifestyle change then maybe I would not have gotten so disappointed. I would love to hear you thought on the word expectations as it pertains to your life or even mine.
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well what can i say really...the only thing i can think of when it comes to expectations is by pertaining it to my past. When mom and dad first split i felt that if i lashed out with my anger as opposed to talking, they would see how much i was hurting and they would get back together. At that time of course i was to young to understand that things didn't work out that way and that i would have to accept the fact that my parents had their differences and their problems so they needed to go their separate ways before things got worse. Now looking at the person that i am today and looking back at that situation in particular, I m at the point now where i dont expect too much of anything from anyone but myself no matter what anybody tells me. A portion of it also could be from when people tell me they are going to do stuff and that certain stuf happens which causes me to get my hopes up. Yes, i joke around n say i want this n i wanna do that, when in reality i know that 99.9% of the time its not gonna happen...when it somes down to it, i dont believe that certain events, situations, or promises are going to happen in life until it actually happens anymore, even if it some of the things that i say to myself for motivational reasons. So thats pretty much where im coming from when it comes to expecting things of myself or others.
Expectations are tinted differently depending on the person who has them. Someone may think that my expectation are more relaxed than there’s or whatever the case. Whichever is true it’s important that the person you have these expectations for has some kind of idea that there are being held to a certain standard. It took a very special friend to make me realize that one night while we are talking. Misleading expectations can lead to all kinds of calamity between to people. What you felt should have been the course of action in a situation can and will bring harsh feelings if your expectations are not clearly and tactfully verbalized. So I guess you can say expectations are one of the tools that can make communication easier between two people.
I enjoyed reading your thoughts and I certainly understand the way you feel about expectations. I try never to have expectations because I have a difficult time making the difference between expectations and desires. I believe that both are beyond our ability to control and in my experience I have learned over and over that having expectations or desires usually ends up in disappointment. This is not to say that I don't have expectations or desires but I manage to put them on the back burner of life and try not to pay much attention to them. As much as I confuse expectations and desires I also get hopes and dreams coming into the mix to confuse me more. I have lots of dreams and hopes but again disappointment seems to come along with them so in order to be disappointed less and less I try and limit my dreams and hopes. This may sound like the ramblings of an old bitter man but I manage to find a good deal of happiness and pleasure without plotting expectations, dreams, desires, hope or anything else that wanders through my somewhat twisted mind. I just try and do the right thing each day and if their is such a thing as karma or luck or just justice I might just experience an expectation or desire coming true without the pain of disappointment. Now that I have probably confused you or made you think how stupid this all sounds I will close and go smoke a cigar.
Lou
Hi Everyone! Well this is my very first blog so please excuse me if I start to ramble a bit.
Expectations for me up until this point in my life have not been very pleasureable. I expected to be in a positive relationship, married to someone special who I not only loved but actually liked as well. Well, 2 divorces, 1 kid and a whole bunch of wasted time and energy later I'm left with a great deal of disappointment and regret. I expected to be working at a company with stock options, 401k, medical coverage, tuition reimbursement, vacation days, etc. but instead I'm working pt on a job (not even towards a career). Just another dead end job. I expected to own a home and car by now. (I'm in my late 30's!) I've owned both in the past but things happened and I had no clue how to handle the situations at the time.
So like I said...expectations are obviously meant for others to look forward to, not me. I feel like I have been beat down by life so I have learned to take it day by day and see what happens.
Sorry I couldn't be more positive, I'll try harder next time...
I believe the success of a resolution made at the beginning of every new year is truly determined by your faith/determination.I think like everything else in life the success of one's resolution and goal's is based on one's effort.The key to it all is not really whether you accomplish it but how much of an effort you gave it.
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