Well ,here we are about to embark on a new year. I have tried in the past year to do everything that I said that I was going to do for 2008. I fell short because I let things get in the way. I am not making any resolutions because they just do not work. Of course some of the most common are to loose weight, go to the gym,stop smoking and stop cursing. I could come up with a few hundred more.I think the the main reasons resolutions fail is because we loose focus or we just make them unrealistic. Why expect yourself to do something every first of the year that you could not or would not do in the middle of the year?What I like to do is set my new year on my Birthday. That day is just for me. When I try to set goals for myself I try not to aim so high. I try to keep it simple and realistic and something that I can make a life changing habit.Now with all of that being said have I failed on my personal new year sure I have but I am hoping that this year will be different. I would like your opinion.





If you are making a new years resolution what is it and how do plan on following through with it?





Do you believe in making new years resolutions?





Thanks and be blessed!

Alone

Tonight I was talking to a friend on the phone and we were talking about being alone. Being alone and being lonely are 2 completely different things.For now lets talk about being alone. We can touch on lonely another day. If you are single meaning not married or not in a committed relationship people look at with a different set of eyes.Why is that? Do they feel sorry for you or do they pity you? For those who don't know I am one of those people that is not married nor am I in a committed relationship. Sometimes I see myself in those same set of eyes, for instance I will not go out to eat by myself. Why you ask? Sometimes I ask myself that same question. Men can do it they look cool and slightly mysterious while sitting at a bar eating and watching the game. So why do I feel a tad uncomfortable sitting at a table reading a book and enjoying a nice dinner alone? I know , I know I should not care what other people say or think about me but reality is we all in some form or fashion are concerned about what people say or think about us.So what do you think when you see a woman out eating alone? If you are single and not in a relationship would you go out to eat alone and honestly be cool with it? I would love to hear what anyone is thinking.

Food for thought Friday

Well, this is my first of what I hope will be many blogs. On Fridays I will see what the thoughts are out there are. For those that know me some of my thoughts can be off the wall for those who don't well we will just have to see how it goes.Lets talk about expectations. In a lot disappointments that have come into my life I have realized that they have been mostly my fault. Why you ask? Most of the time my expectations were either unrealistic or they were out of my control.Some of the time I did not even realize what the root cause of my disappointment was.Let me come up with a good example......I strive to be healthy I would like to loose weight. During the week I exercised ate right kept my mind in a positive place but be hold...I step on the scale and I have gained 2 pounds. Am I disappointed....duh yeah but why.......well the answer is expectations I EXPECTED to see immediate results when in fact the body does things that we will never understand. Maybe I had too much salt that caused me to retain fluid,maybe I ate something that I know that I shouldn't have.Needless to say I have expectations of myself that were not met. If I had just gone into it as a way of just living healthy and making a lifestyle change then maybe I would not have gotten so disappointed. I would love to hear you thought on the word expectations as it pertains to your life or even mine.